Emergency Stop

You’re not into child-porn but you’ve just downloaded some and don’t know what to do

You have started your STOP Plan, but are having a bad day and want to access some child-porn today

You’re just about to sexually touch, photo or film a child OR You’re just about to IM or ICQ etc a child for sex

You have already had sexual contact with a child, either physically or online

YOU HAVE JUST DOWNLOADED SOME CHILD-PORN

· you believed you were getting adult porn

· the file name or description might have given you a hint (incest, school..., intergenerational etc)

· you were curious about what child-porn looked like, but don’t want to take it any further

· you’re quite interested in the idea of child-sex, but don’t want to get into it because you think it might start to take over

Step 1 – make sure you can’t access the image(s) again

· delete all the imaged/videos, then

· empty your deleted items/trash folder

· clear your history and your cache/temp Internet files

Step 2 – check out your motivations (see the ‘Quick Links’ above)

· do you have a curiosity about children and sex?

· would you benefit from having a simple plan to prevent downloading again?

· check out the legal consequences - make sure you know where you stand

Step 3 – phone a helpline

· ‘Stop It Now!’ (preventing child abuse) 0808 1000 900

· ‘The Samaritans’ (non-judgemental emotional support) 08457 90 90 90
Either helpline can help you address any anxieties you have. ‘Stop It Now’ is a confidential service - you don’t have to give your real name.

YOU ARE JUST ABOUT TO

· touch a child sexually

· get a child to touch you sexually

· encourage a child to believe it’s ok to be sexual with you or someone else (grooming)

· show live/recorded sexual video/images of you to a child

· trade images/video/stories depicting child-sex

· encourage another adult to do any of the above

· encourage children to behave sexually together

Step 1 – change your environment NOW

· turn off your computer

· go for a walk to clear your head

· if needed, try a deep breathing exercise to calm down and think more clearly

Step 2 – phone a helpline STRAIGHT AWAY

· ‘Stop It Now!’ (preventing child abuse) 0808 1000 900

· ‘The Samaritans’ (non-judgemental emotional support) 08457 90 90 90

Step 3 – tell a responsible adult if you can

· your wife/husband/partner(s)

· the child’s parent/caregiver

YOU HAVE ALREADY

· touched a child sexually

· got a child to touch you sexually

· encouraged a child to believe it’s ok to be sexual with you or someone else (grooming)

· shown live/recorded sexual video/images of you to a child

· traded images/video/stories depicting child-sex

· encouraged another adult to do any of the above

· encouraged children to behave sexually together

Step 1 – act responsibly NOW

· Phone the police 999 and tell them what you have done

Step 2 – phone a helpline STRAIGHT AWAY (tell them you’ve just contacted the police)

· ‘Stop It Now!’ (preventing child abuse) 0808 1000 900

· ‘The Samaritans’ (non-judgemental emotional support) 08457 90 90 90

Step 3 – tell a responsible adult STRAIGHT AWAY

· your wife/husband/partner(s)

· the child’s parent/caregiver

You might be afraid, it might be difficult,
but you can be responsible and
ACT NOW

YOU HAVE A STOP PLAN BUT

· today is a bad day

· you are craving your old child-porn behaviour

· you are feeling stressed

Step 1 – take time to be kind to yourself

· relax, give the Youtube video on the left a go

· go for a walk to clear your head

· look at how much you have achieved already - stick with it

Step 2 – phone a helpline if you would like extra support

· ‘Stop It Now!’ (preventing child abuse) 0808 1000 900

· ‘The Samaritans’ (non-judgemental emotional support) 08457 90 90 90

Step 3 – what is the cause?

· do you know why you’re having a bad day?

· what events have led up to today, and what about your thoughts, feelings and actions?

· if its your sex drive, try this non-sexual masturbation technique:

Get yourself in a safe, private space

Take a moment to be aware that you will be non-sexually masturbating

- clear your mind

Focus on a non-sexual topic - try to stay focused

Masturbate, staying focused on your non-sexual topic

You may wish to practice this technique when you’re not stressed

so you’re ready when the time comes.